"I think where we part is I no longer worship flat frequency response as the main attribute of sound reproduction as I have in the past, and believe there are other things far more important (to me) EVEN if they are nothing more than, thru component synergy, achieving a sound that pleasures my own (or someone else's) ears"
Agree 100%.
There are so many ways to enjoy a good system. How less interesting would it would be if all systems sounded the same?